How to be more fulfilled, every damn day

Most creative entrepreneurs I know say they started their own business to have more freedom, find their purpose and make a living doing work they love. But despite those noble intentions, many of us struggle to find real happiness and fulfillment.

But I think I've figured it out. And yes, I’m implying that I know the secret to life, happiness and, basically, everything. What? I never claimed to be humble.

So here it is, the secret to being more fulfilled: Find happiness in each day. Take life one day at a time and make each individual day matter in some way. 

Living the life you want doesn’t have to mean making massive changesSometimes the biggest changes in life are simply a series of small ones. They are habits formed or broken, relationships started or ended, small choices made. They are tiny adjustments that eventually point the ship in a different direction.

So how do you do that? Well, because this is the internet, I’ve made a list of 4 steps to being happier, every single day.

How to be happy

1. Identify what makes you happy

Step 1 is simple, but not necessarily easy.

Before you can find happiness each day, you first need to know what makes you happy. 

To do this, grab a sheet of paper or your journal (you are journaling, aren’t you?) and brainstorm everything that brings you joy, no matter how big or small. You’ll want at least 10 things. Here are some of my examples:

-Being active
-Learning
-Being outside
-Eating a good meal
-Meditating
-Interesting conversation


2. Identify what you do that doesn’t make you happy

It might seem counterintuitive to focus on what doesn’t make you happy when our goal here is to find happiness in each day, but it’s important. Why? Because if you’re anything like me, you spend a lot of time each day doing things that don’t bring you joy. 

Sometimes these things are obligations, but not always-- often they're habits that we don’t even realize we’re doing.

The first step to making a change is awareness of what needs to be changed.

So this is an exercise in becoming aware of how we don’t want to spend our days. Examples might be:

-Morning commute
-Spending too much time online, on social media, etc.
-Watching too much TV
-Snacking at night
-Eating lunch in the company cafeteria with negative coworkers


3. Every day, commit to doing at least one thing that makes you happy

Now that you’ve identified what you want more of in your life, commit to it.

Happiness is not a destination, it's a skill you need to develop.

And the only way to do that is to commit to it and make it a priority. 

Now, I’ve said commit to one thing, but try to work up to three things that bring you joy every day. I don’t want to hear that you’re too busy. If you’re too busy to be happy, you should really rethink how you’re living your life. 

And when I say “commit,” I mean it. Every morning, identify how you'll bring happiness into the day, and put it in your calendar. Make it non-negotiable. I’m so serious here. You have one, short, precious life to live. You deserve to make it a good one.

One more thing: on your list, you might have things that you can’t do every day, like travelling. Think of these as long-term happiness goals, and try to identify something you can do today to make that goal a reality. Could you transfer $100 from your checking account to a travel fund? Could you research a weekend getaway? Proactively working towards something you want can make you almost as happy as getting it.


4. Every day, commit to changing one thing that doesn’t make you happy

Let me just preface this by saying that you won’t be able to eliminate everything that doesn’t make you happy. That’s an unrealistic goal, similar to “live like there’s no tomorrow.”

Not what we’re going for here. What you want to do is:

Make some space for the things that make you happy by changing or eliminating some of the things that don’t.

One of the main excuses I hear from people who are unhappy is, “I don’t have time.” That’s what this step is for. We’re trying to make more time for fulfillment.

So how do you do that?

Look at your list of things that don’t make you happy. Is there one thing on your list you can try to eliminate, reduce, or change, just for today? 

You don’t need to swear it off forever. Take one day at a time. Can you spend less time on Facebook, giving you more time with your kids? Can you use your morning commute to listen to an audiobook or podcast about something that interests you? Can you skip lunch with negative coworkers and take a walk outside instead?

Again, I’m not asking you to commit to this for life. I'm asking you to try it, just for today, and see what happens.

[Bonus step: Write it down]

Ok, I know I said there were only 4 steps, and to be honest, if you do just those, you’ll be on your way to a happier, more fulfilled life. But if you really want to take it to the next level, I can say from personal experience that this fifth step is life-changing. 

Keep a happiness journal. Every morning, write down what you plan to do to make the day a good one. It only takes a minute, but putting it on paper is a powerful way to make it more likely to happen

And then, at the end of the day, write down what you did that day that made you happy. Focusing on what went right each day makes you practice gratitude, which is proven to increase levels of happiness. 

Remember, positivity does not mean the absence of negativity. No day will be perfect. No life will be free of unhappiness. That’s not the goal. The goal is to do what you can with what you have. You have one life and even if you live a full life, it’s really not that long. Only you can decide to live the life you want-- no one else will do it for you. 

Happiness is a choice. And it’s up to you to choose it, every single day.
 


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